Don’t spoil their childhood

Children care is the top priority in today’s lifestyle even though parents find less time to attend their siblings. Pressing problem for working parents is that the caretaker resort various cost cutting measures and try to avoid giving utmost care to every children in their care. Day care is a childcare option where parents drop-off their children during the day for care, supervision and learning. Day cares are formal, structured environments with specific drop-off and pick-up times. Day care centres specialise in taking care of infants through pre-schoolers, although some day care facilities also offer before-and after-school care for school-aged children as well. Each day care has different rules, but many will take babies as young as 3 months. In some cases, the name of certain crèches gone bad and hence working parents are scared of dropping their child in day care centres and instead dropping them at relatives place or in centres limited students are handled by a particular known housewife of that area. In big centres it is time to provide connectivity to the parents of the child to view from home how the child is treated in day care centre. But personal care by parents is most essential in all the ages of children. Both father and mother should play pivotal role instead of having don’t care attitude and then blame the day care centres for their own weakness. Here are some basic things to be adopted in daily life for upbringing their children in the best way possible.

1. Children need a minimum of eight touches during a day to feel connected to a parent. If they’re going through a particularly challenging time, it’s a minimum of 12 times a day. This doesn’t have to be a big deal; it could be the straightening of a collar, a pat on the shoulder or a simple hug.
2. Each day, children need one meaningful eye-to-eye conversation with a parent. It is especially important for babies to have that eye contact, but children of all ages need us to slow down and look them in the eyes.
3. There are nine minutes during the day that have the greatest impact on a child: the first three minutes right after they wake up, the three minutes after they come home from school, the last three minutes of the day before they go to bed.  We need to make those moments special and help our children feel love. These are simple, right?  Nothing really is earth-shattering here. Again feel the difference when you show affection and when you find fault with him for silly reasons.
4. Whenever you feel like scolding or beating your child, take a deep breath, or count 1-10 and then act.
5. Let’s ask them to study their favourite subject on their own.
6. Send them to one exam without studying at all.
7. Remember what our kids are learning in 5th std is taught to 7th std abroad.

1. Let’s keep our kids out of unwanted competition.
2. 80% of what kids are learning ,won’t be useful to them in future.
3. Our kids can really afford to do whatever they want to do in future.
4. Higher degrees don’t guaranty success and happiness.
5. Not all the highly educated people do well professionally. And not all who do well professionally are the happiest ones.
6. Don’t spoil their childhood. Support and let them do what they want.

Thus it is very clear that parental care plays a significant role in developing a child. Changing of schools or paying a visit to local child psychologist is not going to help the children in any way. Personal care and personal touch play a pivotal role in developing the child’s character and there is no substitute.  Just blaming the grandparents for your slackness is not an ultimate solution. It is time to have better understanding of your child and not shirk your utmost responsibilities as parents. There lies the real success of your child.

(The views expressed by the author in the article are his/her own.)