The women’s redressal cell of Navi Mumbai Police has recorded a 30 per cent rise of complaints by men against their spouses during the lockdown. Men are already dealing with anti-men laws in the name of laws to protect women. Since there are many organisations educating men to raise their voice against violence by women, the complaints are on rise. The Men’s rights movement supports the introduction of gender-neutral legislation and repeal of laws that they consider are biased against men. Indian men’s rights activists are most active in their resistance against the country’s anti-dowry laws, which have been controversial for their frequent misuse in order to harass and extort husbands, and they have attributed this to the high suicide rate among married men in India, which is almost twice that of women. They also assert that the divorce and child custody laws are biased, and that the frequency of domestic violence against men has increased with time with many cases going unreported as men are shamed into not reporting abuse, or fear false accusations against them in reprisal. Some men’s rights activists also consider India’s rape reporting laws and sexual harassment laws in India to be biased against men.
India regularly gets pulled over the coals for its shabby treatment of women but never gave a thought about women harassing a man. Recently men’s rights activists scored a significant victory in India when the Supreme Court essentially identified them as the victims in domestic violence cases. The judges weren’t making the law gender-neutral, however. They stated that Indian women were filing inaccurate claims of domestic violence. Most of such complaints are filed in the heat of the moment over trivial issues. The court went on to state that women were not visualizing the “implications and consequences” of registering a criminal complaint against their abusive husbands. “Uncalled for arrest may ruin the chances of settlement” and because of this sometimes the victims are turned up to be a culprit in this country. If using the rights given by the Indian constitution for threatening somebody and still being safe is women’s right then there is definitely something wrong. Women rights are given for protection but nowadays women are using it as a shield to make the victim sound as their culprit. This supposed belief leads to displeasure, that courts are places where innocents get harassed, so the only way to get justice is to harass the opponents and thereby that harassment will force them to come to the bargaining table and close the cases. The only way to stop false cases is to work towards rigorous prosecution of all false cases and false pieces of evidence, including the wrong investigation by police.
Indian society laughs on a man when he says he has been raped. India ridicules any complaint about male rape. Indian feminists and society think that only men are perpetrators of a heinous crime like rape and they don’t get that even women can rape a man. This is so disgusting; Owing to such psyche there are no laws for men who are survivors of rape. One could list at great length of many problems that afflict men today, including the male suicide epidemic, the paucity of resources for male victims of domestic violence and the falling behind of young men and boys in education. However, there is one fundamental factor related to all these problems that men encounter: there is a lack of mainstream acceptance of systemic men’s issues which is compounded by the absence of male advocacy groups with a broad remit to make the case at a political level and the level of the media. Men have started sharing their anguish, suffering, and harassment by women/spouses. It is time to recognize their problem as a social and public health issue and develop appropriate strategies and interventions. They are no longer stronger than women. They need help in crisis and family violence: Particularly violence by a spouse is a crisis. Male victims of violence can be saved/helped through appropriate intervention such as recognition of violence against men by women as a public health issue; helpline for the male victims of violence; and education, awareness, and legal safeguards. Seventy-five percent of cases are withdrawn because the women use the charges to extort money. Once her demands are fulfilled, the case against the spouse is taken back. This year Thirty per cent of the total complaints received by the women redressal cell of the Navi Mumbai police department in 2020 were filed by men against their spouses. The cell usually receives complaints from women who are abused, subjected to domestic violence or in marital discord with their spouses. The police claimed that the complaints by men increased with most people working from home. The lockdown last year had forced everyone to be at home, stuck with social media and other little means of entertainment. While some couples managed to sail through the tough times, some others ended up reaching the police stations and courts. The main aim of the cell is to solve the domestic disputes and help the couple to be back on amicable terms. The maximum cases that came up during the lockdown had issues which were driven by social media. Either the husband was spending too much time on social media or the wife was glued to it.
It has the same ability to wreck a man as it does a woman. And neither size nor strength is a match for a narcissistic woman hell-bent on destroying a man. But, the women seeking support outnumber the men by a long-shot, and contrary to popular belief it is not because men are somehow more humiliated by abuse than women, and therefore don’t report it. The idea that there are as many men enduring abuse as women is simply not accurate. Domestic abuse against men whether it’s physical/emotional is real. A man can be just as emotionally scarred from a female partner’s abuse as a female from a man’s abuse. Unfortunate it’s something that is not talked about or recognized enough of in society. Men do not have the same legal resources as a woman to help them in such situations. If you visit Men’s Trauma Centre you will come across many horror stories of men abused by their female partners. Women seem to be able to get away with domestic abuse even if a man reports it. Police and the legal system need to be better educated on this matter.
