Being a male dancer and choosing dance as a career by him was not considered a big deal in the Indian society a few years back. Though now the times are changing and people are looking at dance more seriously. A salute to Kelucharan Mahapatra, Lacchu Maharaj and Pandit Birju Maharaj who did take this step inspite of the stigma that male dancers attract. Biggest stigma is that a male dancer is effeminate and many people relate dance to be feminine. But keeping this myth aside, there are many more myths that surround a male dancer.
Male dancers personal and especially sex life is always questioned more than his dance by many people. From rumours about feet size to sex life to even sexual preferences, there is a lot of cultural misinformation circulating about men and their physiques. And men dancers themselves offer precious little clarification what with their tendencies towards joshing around and playing things close to the chest. So for the record, here are five classic assumptions about male dancer that are totally false, a dancer is a dancer and remember every man is different and all men be it a dancer or non dancer cannot be put in the same basket.
I would often hear people talk about these myths, so I finally decide to take it up and talk to my friends, doctors and some researchers, who have helped me put this piece together. I would like to expose some sex myths about men and male dancers
Male dancer thinks about sex every 7 seconds:
That is as many times as we breathe everyday. Nobody has that type of mental stamina, in one of the most comprehensive surveys about sexual habits in India. Forty three per cent of men reported thinking about sex not even once a day, but rather somewhere between a couple of times a week to a couple of times a month. And a male dancer is a creative person he might have sensual moves on his mind for his choreography but sex on the mind all the time is not true.
Male dancers have better sex lives than a non dancer:
Conventional wisdom says married men get nothing but slumber in their bedrooms, while single studs are “closing the deal”. But it is actually those with the vows that are getting it on and it is not a ho-hum roll in the matrimonial bed; not only are married women more likely to be orgasmic, married men also give and get more oral sex. So it is more about the person rather than a single or a married dancer, if a male dancer uses his sexuality to his best he can get great sex each time he wants it.
A dancers semen is loaded with calories more than of a non dancer:
Doctors say that seminal fluid is made up of water and nutrients such as vitamin C, calcium and magnesium. It also contains the sugar fructose but only 5 to 7 calories worth per serving. It is unlikely to create a diet issue, but this should not be used in an argument for whatever. A creative male dancer might have sex in a creative manner and give a new feel each time, but it has still got nothing to do with his semen and added calories of his juice.
If you shave your beard, head or body, the hair comes back faster, thicker and coarser
A dancer many a times does shave his body to remain clean due to heavy sweating and also to show off his moves more beautifully. And if this myth was true, doctors would have a cure for male pattern baldness by now. Stubble may look darker and coarser because it has not yet been exposed to sun and other wearing elements. Once it grows in, it looks identical to the hair that was shaved away. So please get it put of your head and enjoy the smooth male dancer.
Men dancer with big hands and feet also have big penises
It is true that the development of penises and toes as well as clitorises and fingers are influenced by the same gene. But the length of one does not predict the length of the other. A dancer’s hands and feet are noticed the most and if it is attractive it does generate excitement in people. But it has nothing to do with the size of the penis.
Men are men, a dancer male might be more fit as compared to a non dancer counterpart but that does not mean he will be as hot and sensual in bed as he is on the dance floor, sexual performance has got nothing to do with dance. So all those who have their imaginations running wild when they see a male dancer perform, my advice to you would be to get your feelings in control, as he is a man first then a dancer.
(Sandip Soparrkar is a well known Ballroom dancer, a World Book of Records holder and a Bollywood choreographer who has been honoured with National Achievement Award and National Excellence Award by the Govt of India. He can be contacted on email@example.com)