Age, they say, is just a number and these B-town couples and celebrities have proven the proverb right. Here, there are many couples especially in film industry where Bollywood beauties fell head over heels in love with younger men. Most remembered one is Nargis and Sunil Dutt. The two actors got close during the making of the 1957 epic movie, Mother India. In true Bollywood style, Sunil Dutt, a year junior to Nargis, saved her from a fire on the set, thus winning over her heart. The two tied the knot a year later and had three children. Then former Miss World Aishwarya Rai and Abhishek Bachchan were rumoured to have started dating during the making of Mani Ratnam’s Guru. They got married in 2007. The 40-year-old actress and 38-year-old actor have a daughter, Aaradhya. Farah Khan met Shirish Kunder on the sets of Main Hoon Na, where he was editing her directorial debut. The couple, who have an eight-year age gap, have triplet. Saif Ali Khan was 12 years younger to Amrita Singh when the two got hitched. They divorced 13 years later and have two children – daughter Sara and son Ibrahim. After their divorce, Saif married to Kareena Kapoor who is 10 years younger than him. Shahid Kapoor’s wife is 11 years younger to him; he calls her ‘baby wife’. One or two year/s age gap is not making any difference but our actresses are getting married to men who are 10 to 15 years younger to them. In this series, the recent addition is actress Urmila Matondkar who got hitched with Kashmir based businessman and model, Mohsin Akhtar Mir in a quiet wedding ceremony. After Preity Zinta, it was Urmila Matondkar’s turn to enter into wedlock. The actress, who is 42, got married to 30 year old business man.
Urmila and I belonged to the same chawl in Girgaon, KDGB Niwas. Her father was called as Kanta mama; he was very famous personality in our chawl and was a lecturer by profession. Urmila began her celluloid career as a child artiste with the film Kalyug (1980). Although an average film at the box-office, her next movie, Masoom (1983), about a family coping with an illegitimate member, showed her acting talents blossom and she received critical acclaim from both her fans and the film fraternity. She subsequently appeared in a number of films including Dacait (1987), where she played Sunny Deol’s under-aged sister who gets brutally raped.
Years later, Urmila then made her debut as an adult actress in N. Chandra’s Narasimha (1991) opposite Sunny Deol. Thereafter, she gave one after another many hits and went onto become a big name in the industry. Today, Urmila is known as one of the Bollywood’s most versatile actresses. After Sridevi, she is the one who played the most varied characters next to fellow actresses Tabu and Mahima Chaudhry.
Like Preity’s, even Urmila’s wedding was very low-key with only one Bollywood celebrity being a part of it – her dear friend and fashion designer Manish Malhotra. Meanwhile, Preity Zinta got married to her long-time boyfriend Gene Goodenough in a private ceremony in Los Angeles. However, with the news of the wedding making its way everyone has been wondering who Gene Goodenough is. She had earlier issued a statement that it was an exclusive wedding with just family and friends at the celebration, as both the families wanted the wedding to be a low-key affair. Preity’s hubby too is 10 years younger to her. They mutually decided to keep it private.
During their young age, actresses run after career and success. In 40s, when actually they run out of good roles, then at this age they plan to get married or start new business. They refuse to do role of a mother or elder sister in the movie. The younger guys get wife as a trophy because they are already successful and wealthy so less liability fall on them. If you don’t mind it then it doesn’t matter at all. For them, age is just a number and religion is just a word for them and nothing else. We have often seen these husbands romancing younger heroines on-screen, but in real life they romance older wives. Sooner or later, the age difference becomes an issue too.
In a survey conducted by an NGO, the women in the study admitted to a certain insecurity about aging, which is just never going to be a good thing in a relationship. Plus, the couples felt stigmatized by others, especially the wives — and those judgments may even impact a woman’s mortality. “Couples with younger husbands violate social norms and thus suffer from social sanctions. Since marrying a younger husband deviates from what is regarded as normal, these couples could be regarded as outsiders and receive less social support. This could result in a less joyful and more stressful life, reduced health, and finally, increased mortality. Judgement aside, marriages in which the wife is older than her husband are more likely to be troubled — and the age difference doesn’t have to be all that big. In fact, couples in which the wife is just five years older are three times more likely to divorce than couples of the same age.
Some studies say, if a wife is five or more years younger than her hubby then they’re much more likely to avoid divorce. Others say, she needs to be four to six years younger. According to a study, “Divorce rates are lowest when the husband is two to ten years older than the wife or when the magnitude of their age difference is extremely large.”
Anyway, we discussed marriages of Bollywood couple with research studies on older women married to younger guys. Let’s time decide about their future relationship. Here concluding my editorial by congratulating both the beauties ‘Happy Married Life’.
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